On a blog like this, it is important every now and then to advocate the importance of a healthy sexuality. Although I write about the pleasures of sex and varieties of those pleasures, as well as the beauty of the human form and even good erotica, it must always be remembered that sex and sexual pursuits can become destructive if not channeled in the proper way. Too often the negative aspects of sex dominate the media, or even our own personal lives, usually to the detriment of a true enjoyment of the beauties of sexual pleasures and human relationships.
What is healthy sexuality? I don’t have any definitive answers, simply a few general observations.
First of all, physical health is always important. Do not do anything physically that is contrary to what feels comfortable to you. Often we try things our of curiosity and find we don’t like them, that is fine; but do not persist in behaviors or actions that you find uncomfortable. For instance, bondage and discipline can be fun, but under the wrong circumstances they can also be harmful. It is important that both people are full and willing participants in such things. It does not work if one of the people does not really want participate. And of course always be safe and aware of STDs. Practice safe sex, always.
Second, psychological health is equally as important. Again, don’t do anything you feel uncomfortable about, or which you have continued regrets. If you believe in monogamy, practice monogamy; if you want marriage and children, by all means pursue that; if being single is what makes you happy, pursue that; if having sex with multiple people is what you enjoy, then enjoy that. But always do what is natural and true to your own heart. Don’t let others coerce you into living a life you do not want to live. Although monogamy tends to be the norm, there are many types of sexual personalities, and different things that different people desire or pursue throughout the course of their lives. Find what is good for you, and you most likely find sexual contentment.
Third, always be aware of moral and legal issues. Really, as much as I might be an advocate for sexual freedom, there are certain things that are simply wrong, even disgusting. Child pornography is one of them and without a doubt the most egregious. Recently there has been quite a bit in the news about vast operations of online trading in child porn, the stings and arrests made as a result, and the stories of this stuff are usually pretty hideous. It is just plain wrong, destructive and even evil. Having sex with minors is another. Just stay away from that sort of thing. Prostitution is a greyer area, although in all states (except for Nevada) it is still illegal, and people really should respect the laws of their states, if nothing else than for their own good. Really, is it worth getting busted simply because you are in need of sex with someone? Or even just wasting your money? Perhaps someday the laws will change, but for now soliciting a prostitute is done at one’s own risk and peril. Also, there is the real problem of human trafficking with prostitution, and having sex with someone who is being forced into that situation, as many women are, is always wrong and destructive, especially for the woman involved. People and sex should not be used that way. I like beautiful things, and there is just something a little bit (or a lot) ugly about prostitution as it is currently practiced in our society.
The use of the internet has made access to these things easier than ever before; it has in many ways fundamentally changed the nature of sexuality and relationships. Just think of the explosion of online dating, or the use of Backpage for prostitution. Like all things, there are good and bad aspects of all this. We need to be careful. Like everything else, the internet can become a dangerous and addictive tool for self destruction.
These are just a few of my own thoughts and observations, not meant to be all conclusive but simply a response to the things in the world that I notice from time to time. In the end, the beauties of sex and sexual pleasures shared by two (or more!) consenting adults is a wonderful thing. This is something we all need and should enjoy, and we all need to do so in the ways that best fit our personalities, desires and expectations out of life. Well done porn and erotica can also be enjoyed as part of a sexual life, even in relationships. A lot of couples enjoy this. Pursuing underground and risque worlds such as BDSM is another thing many couples enjoy; if not that, then simply a firm spanking every now and then is a fun type of erotic play.
Whatever it is find, discover what you like, enjoy it, but also be careful and mindful of the world around you at the same time, as well as your own desires and limitation. As the old Greek adage goes, know thyself.
Although nymphs are generally delightful creatures, meeting one can be a hazardous experience. One must be careful when happening upon a nymph. This nymph in the above photo, a type of Naiad, or fresh water nymph, can be particularly perilous. Wherever there is a fresh body of water, usually in some distant place, there will most likely be Naiads. There is the ancient Greek story of Hylas, friend of Heracles (Roman Hercules), who wandered off one day during the expedition of Jason and the Argonauts, was lured to a source of fresh water by some lovely Naiads and vanished, never to be seen again. This story has been a favorite one since antiquity, and many artists, both ancient and modern, have depicted this in painting or sculpture. The two versions here are by the nineteenth century English artist, John William Waterhouse.
Again, what is interested in this Victorian era painting is the open nudity; we might expect different from what is considered one of the greatest periods of sexual repression. And yet the Victorians had an interesting undercurrent of eroticism throughout their art and literature. This often the case when the official mores of a society are puritanical. Eroticism has a strange way of expressing itself.
But back to the theme of this post: nymphs are beautiful, mysterious creatures of nature; they are real and do exist, I know, because I have seen and experienced them myself. They are beings of pure, unbridled sexual and erotic pleasures. And yet one must be careful about meeting them, for although we can share great pleasures with them, we can also experience great perils too.
I have written on nymphs before, even on Hylas, but it cannot be said too often: meeting a lovely Nymph is always worth the potential dangers.
Anyone who has flown in recent years (decades) has experienced the unpleasantness of modern air travel. Invasive security measures, chaotically canceled or delayed flights, long lines at check ins, planes stuffed with the most unsavory specimens of human filth, endless hours trapped on the tarmac, as well as the overall spike in prices for tickets, are all part of the modern air traveler’s experience. Traveling by a plane today simply sucks.
And yet there was a time when air travel was a special luxury for those who could afford to do so. It was the golden age of air travel, before the hijacking of planes began, before the mobs of unwashed hordes began to fill the airports, before society as a whole traded in the decent, classy and self respecting sartorial fashions for today’s casual, nonchalant trashy messiness. There was once a time when planes tried to provide a comfortable experience, with food and drinks and comfort being of primary importance. There was actually a time when checking into an airport did not mean some retarded TSA worker trying to stick his or her finger up your anal cavity. There was a time when all the stewardesses were hot, female, and quite friendly.
As the photo shows above, yes, there was a golden age of air travel, now lost forever, but still part of a collective memory of a once blessed society. If only someone would start an airlines that once again catered to such tastes!