We don't hear enough about eroticism in the context of marriage.
A nice discussion over at Alte on married sex: http://traditionalcatholicism.wordpress.com/2011/03/03/the-relief-of-penance/. It is nice to know that married Catholic and Christian couples can have good, exciting and very erotic sex lives. For someone like me, who often struggles with this area of my faith, this is good to hear. I have come to realize that there are many problems with the internet these days, which I will write about at a later time, but the honesty it allows for some of these discussions can be a good thing, within reason. Often we think Christians have boring or dull sex lives, or are afraid to be sexual; this is not the case at all. Within the context of marriage we see the best sex. Studies even prove this. As exciting and enticing as it may seem at the time, I know from my own experienced the fleeting meaningless of casual sex.
So here is to eroticism within marriage. As I mentioned in my last post, I have come to realize that the best form of eroticism is married erotic love. So thanks Alte, and to all the others, for sharing with the rest of us some of these intimacies that we normally do not hear about. It helps people like me strengthen our faith and understand better sexuality within a Catholic and Christian context.
Ulysses said:
The comfort of the total relationship is a very sturdy springboard from which to dive into the erotic side. The communication that is inherent to a strong relationship is very conducive to erotic expressions of that love.
Alte said:
You are very welcome. I sometimes get criticized for being so open about my sex life, so it’s nice to see that someone isn’t horrified at the thought of married people “doing it”.
Racer X said:
Ulysses,
Well put.
Alte,
Thanks. Well, you won’t hear me complaining about you being too open with your sex life. It is more helpful, at least for me, to hear about the reality of what married couples experience, and the good things inherent in that, than to hear theories on how married sex is a good, especially if they are too intellectually refined. That you can have a healthy and happy sex life within the context of Catholic teaching is the best witness to that teaching.
Badger said:
I don’t want to sound like a fanboy for Athol Kay, but one of the things I really like about his blog is that he is constantly reminding us that a married couple can and should have a hot sex life. Our culture is so steeped in memes and tropes of hot, illicit out-of-relationship sex (whether it be Ashley Madison or Roissy) and boring, infrequent married sex.
Racer X said:
I have not really read his blog, but I do think more needs to be said about the pleasures of good sex within the context of married life. Studies show that most married couples have fairly decent sex. There are many ways to enjoy eroticism.
sexuallifeofawife said:
I’m reading more and more – mostly via blogs – of married or long term couples having a ‘hot sex life.’ I have noticed that when our (myself and husband) relationship is going well – we are usually also having really good sex…
ps Thank you for putting me on your blogroll. What a compliment!
Racer X said:
Sexualwife,
Thanks for the comment. Yes, I think that marital love and sex are the best of all types of sex and erotic sharing. For those who have found that, that is a wonderful thing. It is nice to find blogs such as yours where people openly talk about their good marriages and good sex lives within those marriages!
Plus your pics are hot too…haha…
Ad@m said:
I agree
becker0109 said:
As a younger man I studied Theology. LU was the University I did my course work through. I had to stop as my wife & I were raising our two daughters, and I was working 60 hours a week. Only in the last ten years has the Lord opened my eyes to Books like The Song Of Solomon (7b-8a) “And your breast are like its clusters…’I will climb the palm tree, I will take hold of its fruit stalks…”, Ephesians (5:6-33 & 6:10-24) “Be subject to one another as unto Christ…husbands, loves your wives, as Christ also loved the church…let the wife respect the husband…” Colossians 2: 20-23 ” If you have died with Christ…do you submit yourself to decrees, such as, ‘Do not handle, do not taste, do not touch!” “…the appearance of wisdom in self-made religion and self-abasement…are of no value.” Lastly, 1st Corinthians 7:1-9. In other words, God in His wisdom created the sexual intimacy between a husband & wife puts no barriers up except those strictly forbidden in scripture. A marriage built on the scripture should be highly erotic (with preferences considered for each person) but any other thinking that is from the “old system, teachings of false practices, or how one was taught growing up has to be thrown out in order to have a godly marriage.
gael said:
I’ve gone past that 7 year mark, and I’m still having lots of hot sex with my husband.