So now we have a new year upon us. That means we are all a bit older. Even the younger ones out there, well, you are now entering into a new year. What will things be like at the end of this year? Who knows. We are only at the beginning.
So I thought as we begin as new year I would start a series of post on something that most in this sphere would consider a bit anathema: the older woman. Now it is true, as is often written among the PUA crowd (Roissy is famous for his graphic, clinical descriptions of the thirty year old vs. the twenty year old vagina), that many women, especially many American women, do not age gracefully. There are many factors considering this, the two most important perhaps being diet and lack of exercise. Our world of high fructose laden fast food and sedentary office work has made us a nation of fatties. All you have to do is look around for proof of this.
However, we are not fatalistically trapped into a world where we have to lose our bodies, shape and attractiveness as we age. We do have a lot of control over our destinies when it comes to these things. Yes, no one is going to have quite the same supple tone and physique in their forties or fifties that they had in their twenties; but that does not mean we have to degenerate into a mass of fat and flab. The body (and mind) if taken care of, will reward you nicely in the looks department.
I am sure one of the more depressing themes that runs through in this realm is how age destroys a woman’s beauty and that by forty she is no longer desired. I have read many a woman’s comments on different PUA blogs about how they fear aging and losing their looks. I suppose this is true for most women. Sometimes the comments seems quite sad in their desperation. This is unfortunate, since we are all going to get older, and we should try to age with grace. However, there are some women who have aged quite well and are still quite attractive. I imagine these women would tell you that they eat well, exercise and generally take care of themselves. There are some out there who still look pretty good even into their forties, and my first example is someone even older, Susanna Hoffs of the Bangles, who will be fifty two this year. As a matter of fact, when I found out her age, I was amazed at how attractive she still is. She even has two children and has maintained a fairly tight figure.
You may say, well she is a celebrity, has lots of money, and can afford a personal trainer, exercise time, the best food, etc. This is true. But it is not hard to stay in shape. If most people simply eat well and exercise, they can maintain a relatively healthy body. I work out at the gym six days a week and I see plenty of women in their thirties and forties who are in great shape, much better shape than many girls in their twenties, who take their looks and figures for granted.
Hoffs was quite the looker when younger, with large doe like eyes, long brunette hair and an overall soft and girly demeanor. Imagine being fortunate enough to be able to bang (no pun intended) a girl that good looking for that long a period of time, which for this woman would be more than a quarter of a century, if not longer.
So don’t despair too much, women. If you try, you can probably maintain a great body and great looks long past the expiration date preordained for you by many in our society. This is worth remembering as a new year is upon us.
Rebekah said:
I think it’s silly for women to feel they can’t be attractive in their 30’s! I concur that it may take minimal effort for some to be as beautiful compared to no effort in their 20’s. However, with the lifestyle that so many 20-something’s lead these days, age alone is not a predictor of beauty, when thinking of beauty as what is healthy and vibrant.
But we all know the day is approaching… It just hasn’t been the 30’s in my experience so far. And I’m willing to admit I could be in denial.
And I don’t understand the 20 yr. old versus 30 yr. old vagina issue? Could you explain?
brightstormyday said:
@Rebekah:
You’re sexy.
I didn’t know you were 30.
Rebekah said:
Mandy,
“You’re sexy.
I didn’t know you were 30.”
I get that a lot, actually. Haha! Just kidding. 🙂
You’re sweet!
Racer X said:
Roissy wrote a piece once where he described the changes that took place in a woman’s anatomy from her twenties to her thirties and beyond. Now it is true the changes do take place, so I don’t want to deny that. But of course the way Roissy described it was to detail these things in the most bitterly sarcastic way, which would leave, I would imagine, most female readers with a sense of inevitable doom about the future of their bodies after the age of thirty.
He basically focused on how the once moist, supple and pinkest flesh of the vagina morphs into a desiccated, brownish, malodorous and inevitably repulsive sexual organ.
But again, as with most things Roissy, he takes whatever natural changes take place and turns them into a cosmic, operatic dirge on feminine and human decay and the ultimate, soul destroying despair that naturally follows.
Racer X said:
Mandy: “Your sexy.”
Rebekah: “Your sweet.”
I see another post about another threesome with Mandy coming up…
Rebekah said:
Racer X,
Ah. Roissy. Yes, well, that puts it all in perspective. 🙂
I wouldn’t presume, but if you’re kicking around the idea of including me in the aforementioned threesome post, would you mind not? I really enjoy your blog — but it would be embarrassing for me if that were transferred into into a sex post.
Besides, there are too many other lovely lady bloggers upon whom to direct your talents!
Rebekah said:
Ugh. The phantom comment. I’ve written something and now it’s disappeared. Will try again later…
brightstormyday said:
Hey, Rebekah, we’ve all been embarassed! You should be embarassed too! And after a while, the embarrassment is really a sort of flattered feeling! 😀
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Racer X said:
Mandy,
I think I will start calling you my wing man. Or perhaps wing girl is better.
Rebekah,
Don’t worry, I won’t draw you too quickly into my dark and forbidden world of sexual fantasies, if at all. But I do plan on slowly breaking your defenses down…
Phoenix said:
I saw a black woman in a convenience store once. She was carded for cigarettes. The cashier then said ‘wow I thought you were in your late 20s’.
I asked how old she is because I was curious – she was 47. Damn near looked like she was 23 or so.
Next time I find an older woman lke that, I’m getting her digits. Holy shit, gotta give them credit for taking good care of themselves.
Lily said:
Racer, thought you may like this picture
http://fashion.telegraph.co.uk/news-features/TMG8241729/Tamara-Mellon-stars-in-Jimmy-Choo-fragrance-campaign.html
Racer X said:
Phoenix,
Yes, you got to give them credit when they take good care of themselves!
Lily,
Thanks for the pic. I do appreciate it. She is hot!
MW said:
Man, she looks terrific! Especially the top pic: gorgeous smile, brown doe eyes and that auburn hair. Mmmm mm!
Since you’re on the older woman tack, what’s your take on Helen Mirren?
Racer X said:
MW,
Thanks for the comment. Yes, Hoffs is still quite good looking. Helen Mirren is in great shape and still looks good for a woman of 65. I would not say that I could lust after her, but I can appreciate her attractiveness for a woman of that age.
Tuttle said:
A low-carb, paleo diet with no more than 3,000 calories a day; an hour of exercise a day; keeping out of the sun; and maybe a little bit of (but not too much) cosmetic surgery can keep most women looking attractive into their 40s, or even (with good genetics) into their mid-50s.
Sadly, too many women, especially the kind of spoiled narcissistic princesses we see today, won’t do even that much for themselves. We’re supposed to love and lust after them no matter how bloated and frumpy they become.
Neil Skywalker said:
Anyone has a link to that pussy description of Roissy ?
Would be fun to read it. I must see, in the last year i banged girls in their teens (19) twenties ( lots ) thirthies ( a few ) and an 42 year old mom of 4. Did feel the difference much downthere. Actually the 42 year pld ( hot filippina ) had a really tight pussy, although i must say she had here children with a c- section.
commutersex said:
didn’t you know 50 is the new 35??
Racer X said:
Well certainly she has managed to keep her looks! I applaud that. It is not hard if you eat right and lead a healthy lifestyle.
sexuallifeofawife said:
Wow 51! I remember Hoffs from my younger days – didn’t know she was still singing – will have to check her out…
The other day this woman asked my kids (who she thought I was looking after) my age (39) she went crazy and nearly attacked me (in a nice way) wanting to know what was my secret as she thought I was 23. (I don’t have any secrets apart from keeping active and not sunbathing) Genetics play a big part I guess…
This kind of made my day/year/decade – which is a bit sad really as it shouldn’t really matter that much…
Lovely thoughtful post!
Racer X said:
Sexualwife,
You are Hoff show that a woman can remain beautiful for a long time…
Glad you liked the post!