Did you know that the vibrator was created in the nineteenth century, at first for a variety of different reasons, but one of which was to help women deal with their “hysteria”. Doctors would actually apply a vibrator to a woman’s vulva, masturbate them, and hope to induce an orgasm and thereby calm the woman down. In fact, before the vibrator was created, doctors had been masturbating women for centuries as an aid for stress relief and other perceived problems. As you can imagine this was probably fairly ineffective (unless Racer X had been the doctor applying the treatment. He certainly would have had a booming practice) and so this use of the machine was short lived. The first vibrators in the early 19th century were steam powered; the first true electric vibrator was invented around 1902. Later on in the early twentieth century, the vibrator became quite popular in sales, being the fifth domestic item to be electrified, after the sowing machine, fan, tea kettle and toaster, and well before the vacuum cleaner and electric iron. At first it was marketed as an all around health device, used for massaging muscles in general. It was extremely popular, being advertised in such catalogs as Sears and Women’s Home Companion. However, increasingly it was being used in the porn of the time, and slowly the connection was made between the ostensible (innocent massage), and actual (female masturbation) purpose of the device. So from that point until at least until the 60’s it became an underground device. Of course today’s vibrators are quite common and accepted, but, remarkably, the sales of vibrators is still banned in some states today, mostly in the South and Midwest.

Vibrator add from the early twentieth century.

On the Taliban like banning of vibrator sales, to quote Dan Ireland, moral crusader for traditional American purity, or at least his fantasy of it:  “Sometimes you have to protect the public against themselves….These devices should be outlawed because they are conducive to promiscuity, because they promote loose morals and because they entice improper and potentially deadly behaviors…there is no moral way to use one of these devices.” I don’t think people are thinking of morality when they are pleasuring themselves with one of these devices. I have never met a woman who did not enjoy one, when given the opportunity to experiment. Mandy http://brightstormyday.wordpress.com/2010/10/22/go-watch-porn-use-your-vibrator/ will probably be the one exception.

All girls should learn to use a vibrator.

One of my favorite things is to watch a woman masturbate, with a vibrator or not. Just knowing a particular girl masturbates is also a turn on. I am always curious as to what sort of thoughts goes through a girl’s head when she masturbates, and I have found each one is different. Some think more graphically, some more emotionally, most a combination of both. But this is for certain: a girl who masturbates is much more sexual and much more enjoyable in bed.

God I love sex!

For those of you who curious about wading into the forbidden, murky waters of anal love, I will offer you a few pointers (ten, to be exact) based on my own experience over the years, as well as what I have read in various places. I will keep this short and sweet, making it as tight and all encompassing as possible, sort of like a woman’s ass. Consider it Racer X’s ten tips for anal sex.

Rivelino http://alpharivelino.wordpress.com/2010/10/17/big-article-on-anal-sex/ mentions  how anal sex is increasing in popularity.  He relates how he has tried anal sex, but that the girls he tried it with did not enjoy, and he actually hurt them in the process. So I thought I would share my wisdom with him and everyone else, and tell you what I have learned in my adventures into this activity, which is still illegal in many states, and may even earn you the death penalty in some countries. This ten point guide is meant only as an outline, and not an encyclopedic volume on anal love.

Rule Number One: Don’t just jump into anal sex without her being ready and prepared!!!

1. Be patient. First and foremost, the woman must be prepared and willing.

You cannot simply shove your dick in a woman’s ass without any forewarning, or preparation. That is not going to work.  A girl must be prepared, and there are many levels of preparation, both mental, physical, and sexual.

2. A woman must be ready mentally and emotionally for this act.

You have to introduce the idea to her. Talk about. Joke about it. Tell her how your previous girlfriend loved it. She may even ask in a fit of curious annoyance, “So, did you ever do anal with HER?” Let her know how forbidden it is. At first she may express complete disgust and horror, but, and only if you are good in bed and are proven at satisfying her sexually, she will eventually start thinking about it, in secret, and then one day she will probably surprise you by saying, “I really want to try anal sex.” If she feels love for you, the effort will be easier on your part.

3. Before you get to the actual anal sex, you have to introduce her butt to different forms of anal stimulation.

First, simply show lavish attention to her ass. Kiss her cheeks, spank her, get her thinking about that area. Then, and in different stages, explore her butt. You don’t have to do it all at once. Perhaps you may want to start with a gentle massage of her anus with your finger, or perhaps you might want to escalate to licking her ass. Trust me, if she is open to this, she will love it. For some reason women prefer to have their assholes licked more than they do fingered, although if you introduce a finger to her ass, she most likely will enjoy that.

4. Do not pressure her into anything.

You must gauge her feelings, her emotions, her openness to sexual experimentation. She must be ready. If she is ready, she will enjoy it. If not, it will be difficult and she will probably dislike it. Now anal sex can be an emotionally risky behavior for women. She may end up hating you, although she will respect you for trying, and in her female mind, she will probably be deeply intrigued and then love you, perhaps forever, for being bold enough to go down this dirty and forbidden road, even though she may hate you forever for fucking her in the ass, although she really will love you more than ever because she knows only alpha’s will try anal sex and women love alphas.

(Again, as these first four tips suggest, and which I cannot emphasize enough, in order for a woman to enjoy anal sex, and, consequently, in order for you to enjoy anal sex with a woman as frequently as possible, they must be prepared, ready, willing. Once you have established that, you can move on the the technicalities of the act, which the remaining tips will now cover. )

5. Use lots of lubrication.

This is essential. The penis is not going into her rectum without lube, unless you want her to scream in agony. That would probably ruin the whole thing for her forever, and your dreams of being a sodomizing Casanova will be forever lost. There are all sorts of different types of lube, but avoid petroleum based ones, since the clean up is more difficult. One girl I fucked in the ass was so wet that her juices covered her asshole and I slid right in (we did it missionary–more on positions in #8). That was a hot experience. But generally you will need to buy some type of lube and use it.

6. Ease the penis in gently.

Don’t shove it in. You must be gentle. You must be patient. Slowly, guide the head around her anus, then gently guide it into her butthole and when you feel the resistance of her sphincter muscle, stop and let her relax. If she shows any discomfort, stop altogether and try another time. If she is good to go, continue gently pushing, applying more lube if necessary, and eventually you will feel her sphincter muscle upon and your dick slid into her ass. You may even ask her to back into you, so she has some control over the rate of penetration. A combination of you pushing in and she pushing back is the best combo. Communicate. At that point, if you feel your cock snugly ensconced within the dark mysteries of her anal cavern, and if she has never have anal sex before, she will no longer be an anal virgin, and you will have stolen her anal cherry. If you are still an anal virgin, you will both have experienced something which is all too rare into today’s world: two virgin’s losing their virginity (albeit anal) to each other. Rejoice in your triumph. Your cock in her ass means that you have now reached  the most advanced level of the sexual arts, sort of like earning a graduate degree in physics.

I freely admit I love a woman’s ass.

7. Keep it forbidden and taboo.

Chicks love the forbidden. They love thinking that they are being bad girls, and are not all vanilla as they seem in public. They enjoy pushing societal boundaries. As one girl said to me, when I was fingering her ass, “It feels weird but I like it.” They enjoy knowing they are in the presence of a powerful man who makes no bones about fucking them in the ass. Darkness intrigues them (this is why they love Vampires so much). Anal sex in the ultimate in forbidden, dark sexual pleasures. As another girl told me, the first time I fucked her ass, “Oh god, you are really sodomizing me, aren’t you.” She came several times.

For this reason, keeping it forbidden and taboo, I don’t engage in anal sex on a routine basis. It is a special treat, something to do occasionally, like eating a a whole chocolate cake in one sitting, or something like that. It feels great when you are doing it, but you don’t want to do it all the time. Otherwise it will lose it’s mystery and/or could become an unhealthy thing. Plus you don’t want to overdo it when it comes to that part of the body, because it does have its physical limits. Again, the vagina and the rectum are not the same.

8. Massage her clit while you are fucking her in the ass, if possible.

There are different positions for anal, but the one I find women like the most are her lying on her side and you behind her. This will allow you to most easily massage her clit and that will only add to her pleasure. Also, you can finger her pussy, and this will add to her pleasure also. But other positions would be behind her, or on top of her. Each couple needs to find their own comfort zone. Butt love can be fickle.

9. Once inside her ass, don’t thrust too hard, unless she likes that.

You need to be careful about the rectum. It is not elastic like the vagina, so pounding it like a pussy can be dangerous. You need to be careful and not try to hurt her in any way, while at the same time being forceful enough to give her pleasure. She may say though, as one girl did,  “It hurts but it feels good.” I still have no idea what that means, except she wanted me to keep on going. I did. She came several times too.

10. Be hygienic.

Always be clean. A shower before sex is always good, and clean yourself up afterwards. I have never had any unpleasant outcomes with anal, so it is a lot cleaner than people may think, although there is always the potential for something embarrassing to happen, given the nature of that area. And never put you penis back in her vagina after anal without thoroughly washing it. If not, you can give her a nasty infection. Using a condom is recommended, for obvious reasons, but be careful of it slipping off and sliding into the oblivion of her rectum. Shitting out a used  condom, I suppose, can be an unpleasant experience.

So, for all those out there curious about anal, and especially Rivelino, give it a try. Some girls like it, some don’t, but you will never know if you don’t try.

P.S. And if you are really into the anal arts, let her finger (and do whatever else) with your ass too. You have no idea how much chicks love giving anal pleasure as well. It is their ultimate revenge for penis envy.

P.S.S. The anal 69 is particularly nasty.

I came across this poem by Thomas Carew (1594-1642) awhile ago. He was an English “Cavalier” poet who lived in age when racy poetry was more common than one would think, that is, until the English Puritans shut most of it down. For those who think that porn is confined to the present day, all ages have had their expressions of eroticism or pure lust. And all ages have had their detractors as well.

This poem called “Rapture” and is a metaphorical yet frank description of sex with his lover. It is fairly long, about 165 lines, so I will only quote a few lines here, but the whole is worth reading if you ever have the chance. What I find interesting about this poem is one line in particular, which relates somewhat to my last post on Grace Kelly, who, it turns out, had quite a sexual appetite herself.

Let me begin by quoting the first two lines:

I will enjoy thee now, my Celia, come
And fly with me to Love’s Elysium.

I like them because they are a straightforward invitation to lovemaking, and sexual pleasure. The them of enjoyment of sex runs throughout the poem. Elysium was the place in Greco-Roman mythology where the souls of the just and virtuous went to spend all eternity in some state of pleasure and relaxation. Usually it is depicted as a verdant and happy place.

A few lines later (l.29-30), after describing how he and his lover will go away to some secluded yet enchanted place, he says:

There my enfranchised hand on every side
Shall o’er thy naked polished ivory slide.

These two lines reminded me of something I recently read about Grace Kelly. Apparently one of her early lovers, a man named Don Richardson, who was her tutor at an acting school, described her body as “stunning” and “something sculptured by Rodin”. It is true, for anyone who has had the enjoyment of lying next to a beautiful woman, that the female body can look like a fine piece of ivory sculpture. I especially love seeing a woman lying on her side, a position which accentuates well the curve of her hips. Also, a full but trimmed bush adds a nice contrast to the soft, bare skin of the rest of her body, and continually draws the eyes downward to her erogenous zone, tempting us to engage in further delights.

More Grace Kelly. We get a hint of how beautiful her body was; and the little boat in the water mixes nicely with the next section of Carew's poems below

The poem then continues in great detail to describe his desire for her, how he is going to make love to her, using metaphorical language primarily drawn from nature to paint a picture of deep sensuality.

When the actual deed of intercourse, or, I should say, fucking occurs, he paints a nautical image (l.79-90).

Now in more subtle wreaths I will entwine
My sinewy thighs, my legs and arms with thine;
Thou like a sea of milk shalt lie displayed,
Whilst I the smooth, calm ocean invade,
With such a tempest, as when Jove of old
Fell down on Danae in a storm of gold;
Yet my tall pine shall in the Cyprian strait
Ride safe at anchor, and unlade her freight;
My rudder, with thy bold hand, like a tried
And skillful pilot, thou shalt steer, and guide
My bark into love’s channel, where it shall
Dance, as the bounding waves do rise or fall.

Again., I love the imagery. Their legs are entwined; she “like a sea of milk shalt lie displayed” while he the “smooth, calm ocean invade”. His penis is a “tall pine”; entering her is to “ride safe at anchor” she will use her hand to guide him inside her “into love’s channel” and the actual fucking or even throbbing of ejaculation is like a “dance, as bounding waves do rise or fall.”

According to a lot of people the world is going to hell because of sexual immorality and all the ages previous to ours were purer and better. It seems though, as this one small tidbit from the past reveals, that all previous ages were just as corrupt sexually as our own. People have always been the same, they like to fuck, nothing changes, they like to write about it and even view it in different forms and as the ancient Hebrew book of Ecclesiastes says, (1.9) “there is nothing new under the sun.”

I can understand the need for restraint in life. Anything taken to an extreme is a bad thing, including sex.  Often I lead a life of hedonistic pursuits but eventually I start to feel drained and exhausted. Then there have been times when such things are not that important, where I want to spend more of my time pursuing things that are important to my mind and soul rather than my body. So in my own life I try to find a balance between erotic desires and expressions and moderation.  This has traditionally been referred to as “The Golden Mean”.  In contrast to sexual pleasure-seeking, there have been times when I have willingly and happily chosen to go without sex for shorter or even longer periods. It can be liberating. And for those of you who are proponents of “Game” such as Roissy details, one of my maxims is that the true sign of an “alpha” is someone who can walk away from being enslaved to the thrill of sexual conquests. A male who has the power to choose to say no to it all is in a position of great power.

As I have mentioned many times in this blog, spirituality is important to me. So sex within the context of spirituality or religious ethics is a question I have always grappled with. I once watched a sermon by Billy Graham where he talked about the fleeting pleasures of sex. It is true: sexual pleasure is fleeting. If you are sleeping with different women, trying to score with multiple women, despite the thrill of it all, what you are left with at the end is nothing but a memory and the desire to do it again.  I know this from much experience. So marriage, or at least a steady relationship, does have its benefits. Fortunately for me I was always interested in other things too than simply sexual conquest: art, literature, languages, religion, faith, God, so I had other outlets and important pursuits. I wanted to cultivate my mind, body and soul as well as enjoy life. These often demanded much of my time, and now that I am older, I am glad to have done all this, so that I have lots of things to interest me at this point in my life. It has contributed to my happiness. As I have gotten older all these things have become more important. I look with amusement on the games that younger people play in the art of love. They are necessary games, but still funny to me now, especially since I once played them myself to such a great extent. I still enjoy them, but now I try to keep things in perspective too. As I said, balance is important.

One thing I have always found disturbing though is the sight of men railing against sex. Everyone should beware of these.  Ted Haggard is a good modern example. The man who railed against homosexuality was himself gay. Or how about George Rekers, the  Rentboy.com  hypocrite? He spent his life crusading against homosexuality while secretly hiring young male prostitutes. As time goes on in this media age more and more of the moral purity crusaders are outed. Remember Jimmy Swaggart? Or Jim Bakker, just to name a few. And lets not even get into the Catholic stuff, ok?  I think a future post on all these might be in order, since sexual hypocrisy is always something I find amusing. We are surrounded by it to no degree.

The point is that sexuality is something that so many people want to fit into some neat little moral box, and the ones who are the most zealous about this are often the ones with the biggest and darkest secrets. I remember being younger and in a zealous religious phase and thinking sex was evil and wanting to suppress my desires only to have them explode later on in the most bizarre ways. I was one of those who once preached against the evils of sex while at the same time lusting after every female I would see. One blogger, I believe it was Seraphic Singles, once wrote about how she thought that Catholic men who preached against sex were “creepy”. I could not agree with her more, having spent a lot of  my life around such individuals. They are all not like that, but too many are. It is a strange and sometimes disturbing world. I was once read a book on Catholic sexual ethics which liberally quoted Mediaeval scholastics as a source of understanding human sexuality. Now I don’t have a lot of problems with most of the Church Fathers, I think they are a source of great wisdom and truth, but why should we still base a religious moral ethic so much on ancient writers who never even knew what a hormone was or had not real concept of human biology? I mean, to most of these guys, what we now know as testosterone would have  in their time been considered devilish temptation. If it is so evil then why did God put it in my body to torture me for all of my life with sexual thoughts??? And I have a shit load of that stuff too! More than most men, trust me.  And don’t just tell me that I need to get married. It is not that simple.

Aristotle, who wrote about the Golden Mean, as depicted by the great, High Renaissance painter Raphael in his “School of Athens” fresco, ca. 1510. One of the great artworks in the Vatican today.

So as I mentioned in the first paragraph, what I have discovered thus far in my life is that the Golden Mean works best for me: not going too far in either direction, either excessive restraint or excessive abandonment, trying to find some balance, a middle road, a Golden Mean, although if I were to err it would probably be in the area of excessive sexual pleasure-seeking.  Perhaps it is nothing more than common sense, but for me it is something I enjoy reminding myself of.  Not that I am perfect practitioner of this. After all, simply put, I am quite the horndog, or horny toad,  as one former lover used to call me.  And I recall her enjoying quite intensely my excessive sexual desires and pleasure sharing.

But besides the ancient Church Fathers, there are other ancient writers whom we can refer too.  The Greek philosopher Aristotle (384-322 B.C.) writes about the Golden Mean in his Nicomachean Ethics and other philosophical works. Confucius (551-479 B.C.) also has this in his philosophy. After almost twenty-five hundred years the concept of the Golden Mean is still true today, especially in the area of sexuality. At least I have discovered that in my life. In fact, there is always seems to be something true in these ancient precepts.  After all, a concept or principle that has rung true for most people for well over two millennia must contain at least some truth. Well, at least for me.